Hello for the next few weeks we will continue to look at the article on school refusal. If you wish to view online please see link: https://raisingchildren.net.au/school-age/school-learning/school-refusal/school-refusal
Understanding your child’s school refusal
The first step to working on your child’s school refusal is trying to understand the issue from your child’s point of view. This means you can go to the school with useful information.
Identifying why your child is having trouble going to school
Talk with your child about school and why they don’t want to go. Try to find out whether your child is having problems with peers or teachers, or whether they’re trying to avoid something. For example, ‘If you could change one thing about school, what would it be?’
If your child finds it hard to talk about the problem, ask your child to rate each part of the school day – for example, the bus ride, classroom, specialist classes, teacher, peers, recess and lunch breaks. Younger children might find it easier to tell you how they feel by pointing to symbols like sad faces or smiley faces.
Think about whether there’s anything happening at home that’s making it hard for your child to leave and go to school. For example, have you had a death in the family or recently moved house? Is your child worried about someone at home, or is your dog unwell?
Finding solutions to school refusal
Help your child to problem solve any obstacles about leaving home or going to school. Clearly define the issue, then brainstorm possible solutions. Choose the option that has the best possible outcome.
Tell your child that you’re going to work together with their school to help them go to school.
Talk with your child about seeing a counsellor or psychologist if they feel they can’t manage their worries or fears about school.
***It’s important for your child to go to school while they’re getting help with the issue that has caused the school refusal. When your child goes to school, it builds their confidence and resilience. It keeps your child connected with learning, and it’s important for social development. It’s often easier for children to return to school if they haven’t been away from school for too long.
Just a reminder that my contact details are 0400 994 032 or email lisa.gonnet@centacarewarrnambool.org.au
Please note that I am available to parents and family 8.30 – 4.30.
Kind regards and have a wonderful week
Lisa Gonnet
Schools pastoral care worker