How can Jesus command us to love?
It is odd how, in English, there are many single words for sexual intercourse that are crude vulgar or crass but there are no single words that describe it positively. The best we have are two-word terms of which the most popular would be “making love.” But those two words give us an insight into what true love is about, love being more than just sex. It is not just feeling desire, getting a physical or emotional high or a warm glow. True love doesn’t just happen – it is made. A couple can be deeply attracted to each other, parents may experience an outstanding rush of love towards their baby at birth, but deep abiding love is made, built up over time, onto a bedrock of patience, with gestures of generosity and fortitude, joy and sorrow.
So what has this to do with Jesus’ twin commandments: to love God and our neighbour? A lot. Once we experience God’s love towards us, we have to learn how to ‘make love’ back to God. This usually entails us accepting that God loves us unconditionally, discovering we don’t have to earn this love and that we need to be patient with our own failings. When we truly experience that mercy, a power to love like that is born within us. What we have received, we want to give. Jesus’ command to love isn’t an ‘order’: it is an entry into the creative, patient dance of love. From God, we learn how to love ourselves, so then we ‘must’ offer that same love to others.
Loving God, let me daily experience your love for me. As I grow in that love, may I show it towards my family, friends and indeed all around me. I ask this in Jesus’ name confident that you will hear me.
Sr Kym Harris osb